Sunday, February 21, 2010

Meta Conversations

I just heard
this Great TBOOK program on aging
The speaker articulated something I have been thinking about, the meta-data or meta-conversations we have with one another. I've noticed that when I feel happy and smile at people they often reflect that back to me.
On a primal level our lymbic systems are reflexivly drawn to happy people. Sounds logical?
Science proves it.
I recently read the following Harvard Business Review article by Daniel Goleman on emotional intelligence and leadership.

Social Intelligence and the Biology of Leadership - Harvard Business Review
"The authors describe how the brain's mirror neurons enable a person to reproduce the emotions she detects in others and, thereby, have an instant sense of shared experience. Other social neurons include spindle cells, which allow people to quickly choose the best way to respond to someone, and oscillators, which synchronize people's physical movements."

Not only do we respond to the emotions of others, we also remember them in meta-terms.
As my friend Will's Facebook status said last week, "I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. ~WRS"

This statement is more than just sound advise.

(The second half of the TBOOK Radeo Program linked to above is about Dogs and American culture. Worth a listen.)

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